4 Shocking Secrets Women Never Tell Their Men

Although men have been overtime tagged with the characteristics of  not talking and being able to keep secrets, the woman race has been noted for keeping some things secrets even with the talking nature they are known for.

Often times, relationships do not work out due to some things a woman expects from her man but the man in the picture can not even point out what exactly the woman want. Yes, women are known to be very open and can be extremely talkative creatures in comparison with men, but you will be surprised that not only men have some things to hide, but women also have some secrets.

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For every one woman, be rest assured that there is a mystery attached. Most men feel the female gender can never be satisfied but hey!, here are basic things you must know as a man to get along well…and not only get along well, but to look like a ‘god’ in front of your woman in all situations.

Women Love Surprises. No woman likes a boring ‘nothing-new-to-look-forward-to-man’, same way a man does not like a boring woman. The term ‘boring’ for a man does not mean same thing for a woman. Women like crazy surprises, surprises that can brighten up a moody face. Now, do not get it wrong, surprises do not necessarily mean spending money…helping out with the dishes while she cooks will sure gladden her heart.

Making the bed while she tends the children to sleep will surely clear out all the day’s stress and get her willing to yield for any of your favorite sexcapades…you know what I mean! Even if it is a gift, it necessarily does not have to be expensive. Be rest assured that when she realizes the fact that some effort has been taken to make her feel happy, you will be soon rewarded.

Women Like To Be Part Of Every Decision-Making Process. Do not be deceived by what anyone tells you about a man being the head and Lord of the house. Yes, women know that their men have naturally been saddled with the responsibility of making decisions for the home, but even when they know that fact, they still want to be a part. Even when a woman knows her husband still has the final say, she feels appreciated when her opinion or view is consulted by her husband concerning an issue.

It goes a long way to suggest to the woman that she is just not a figure head but her opinion really matters! Dear men, boost the egos of your woman today, make them feel they are important in the house and not just the ‘kitchen manager’.

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Women Want Men To Decode Their Various Body Languages. Women are mostly known to have a sixth sense, especially if it concerns relationships. Women have been penned down to be very sensitive when a man is involved. No little detail can go down the drain when a relationship is question, that is why it is widely assumed that there is no way a woman will not know a friendship-relationship that will blossom into something more cordial.

Women want to be in a particular home dress and have their man decode what they want or how they really want it or relatively how they are feeling at the moment without having to say a word. A woman desire a kind of relationship that just like the football field, the referee need not talk but will just blow his whistle and phew!..the footballer(s) know what he means.

Every Woman Want A Honest Man. Even when dishonesty is the order of the day, a lot of women, if not all, want to be seen and attached to a man with a great repute. Every woman want to be happy to be linked with a man that everyone thinks has a great character with little or no flaw.

Women want to be able to gist about their men with other women without the fear of being tackled or questioned about his behavior. To them, being a great man starts from having what some other women’s men do not have, which makes them shine more in the midst of their friends.

Sure there are other things women want; things like telling them how much you love them very often, being there for them always and many more,…with the list above, you have just read some of the innermost thoughts of every woman, although some of them might not own up to this.

Immense Health Benefits Of African Pear

Usually eaten in Nigeria with corn, the oval shaped fruit has its flesh in butter form when roasted or boiled.

African Pear
Africa Pear

The May/July fruit has been researched to have immense benefits more than what you could have ever imagined. Ube as it is called by many Nigerians has come to stay; as beyond the delicious taste of the fruit when boiled or roasted, many more unthinkable are needs to be known about this exceptional fruit.

The local pear grows mostly in the tropics. It grows up to 18 metres in height and exudes an odoriferous gummy substance called resins or exudates from injured or excised portion of the stem. It is cultivated in most rural communities by the peasants, farmers for its fruits.

The fruit is red, turning blue-black when ripe with unpleasant turpentine smell. Here is a list of the usefulness of this amazing fruit you, probably, did not know before now.

It aids the treatment of wounds and parasitic skin disease

From time immemorial, local doctors are always in need of African pear when there is a case of deep and parasitic wounds and it has always worked. The fleshy bark of the fruit after it is boiled has been said to cure ringworms, “craw-craw” (body rash) and many more.

It can also be used as an agent of formulation for toothpaste

Pharmacists have claimed that exudates of native pear can also be used as a part of the ingredients that formulates toothpaste. This is because scientific evaluation has it that the fruit has antimicrobial and antioxidant properties. According to a study by D. E. Okwu and Fred U. Nnamdi of the Department of Chemistry, Michael Okpara University of Agriculture, Umudike, Abia State, the high concentration of calcium and phosphorus in the fleshy areas of the fruit is known to improve the dentine formulation protecting the enamel from demineralisation. So, when next time you sense a need to make your teeth healthier and also the need to make any skin rash to disappear, grab as many local pears as possible!

Things Everyone With A Vagina Should Know About Food

Ever heard that you are what you eat? As a woman, your body system and organ have been fashioned in a way that whatever food taken matters a whole lot.



And amazingly, some of these foods go a very long way to determine how your vagina looks, and above all, what your vagina tastes like. YES, WHAT YOUR VAGINA TASTES LIKE.


Overtime, doctors have recommended yogurts with probiotic supplements to women who suffer from severe yeast infections, caused by candida fungus. Probiotics are live microorganisms, often called “friendly bacteria,” that may help fight infections caused by “bad” bacteria and boost digestive health. They are sometimes added to yogurts and available in supplements. Although the evidence that yogurt can really stave off yeast infections is still inconclusive but, an uncoordinated set of studies done on small groups of women who were with varying infections, have shown that yoghurt might be good for you after all.


As a woman who cherishes her vagina, eating lots of sugar may make you more prone to yeast infections, especially If you’re diabetic or pre-diabetic. Yeast infections are very common: According to the Office on Women’s health of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, about 75% of women will get one at some point in their lives and nearly half will get two or more.

Pregnancy, taking antibiotics, or eating too much sugar are major potentials of yeast infection. “The idea is that the yeast will eat off of the sugar and that’s how they’ll grow, but while most women would need to consume a lot of sugar to make it the culprit, the bar is lower for diabetics and pre-diabetics. “I commonly see infections in my diabetic patients that don’t have good control over their blood sugar”, the health department revealed.

World Health Organization has however recommended that an adult’s daily sugar intake should not be more than 10% of your calories, which is about six teaspoons or 25 grams for most adults. Even if blood sugar is not a problem for you, your body will thank you for limiting your sugar consumption.



This three listed above, can give your bladder a very irritating nature, especially if you suffer from Interstial Cystitis, a medical term for painful bladder syndrome. Many who suffer from this are always given a long list of bladder-irritating foods to avoid, including foods with caffeine, alcohol, histamine, artificial sweeteners, MSG, and nitrates.

Even if you don’t suffer from IC, if you’re running to the bathroom more than you’re supposed to, there might be the need to remove certain foods from your diet. Caffeine, for example, is a well-known diuretic, meaning it makes you pee more. Chocolate, which contains caffeine and other potentially IC-exacerbating ingredients, should also, sadly, be avoided. Health Organizations have also recommended that anyone with an overactive bladder should avoid artificial sweeteners like aspartame and saccharin, which brings us to your favorite diet soda which study has shown that it poses  double threat since it probably contains both caffeine and artificial sweeteners.


Before we go any further, note that Vaginas can and will smell like whatever they want. They are not supposed to smell like roses; that concept is annoying. Although there are no too much research on how foods impact your vaginal smell, but it is related to the rest of your particular scent. Strong smelling foods like garlic and the likes can make your vagina smell more.

“It has not been extensively studied, it’s been inferred from other research,” because an important component of the odor is from sweat, foods that make your sweat more odiferous, will likely do the same for your vag. “If you ingest foods with very strong odors like asparagus or garlic or curry, it’s possible that that can translate to a smell in your vaginal area,”  health experts revealed.

As for the commonly repeated myth that inserting a garlic clove into your vagina can cure a yeast infection, don’t listen. “In reality, inserting any foreign object in the vagina may cause further complications or even worsen an infection. And there is no scientific proof that garlic can cure a yeast infection, so why risk it?


Although it has not been scientifically proven, it has been said that taking pineapples can make your Vagina smell and taste better. We all want our vaginas to smell and taste as pleasant as possible, but while there are some stories floating around about how to do that, there is no real corresponding scientific research.

Dr. Lindsay has however advised that very woman’s vagina is going to be slightly different. The taste is also going to be different depending on who’s tasting it and their taste buds.” So don’t stress about it unless you have a reason to, like a particularly strong or pungent smell. And if that happens, see your doctor, don’t just stock up on pineapples.


Your vagina is a mucus surface, same as the inside of your mouth, so the better hydrated you are, the better hydrated those membranes are going to be,” Lindsay explained. And while some strong-smelling foods can translate into a stronger-smelling vagina, water can help bring things back to whatever is normal for you. “If you’re concerned, you can drink water and that can dilute out what you might perceive to be a bad smell from the food,” Lindsay said.

Finally, according to Dr. Lindsay, keep in mind that there’s only so much any one food can do. “Broadly, as long as you’re generally physically healthy, you should have a healthy vagina. But if you have specific concerns about your vagina, be sure to see your doctor.

Who Spends More In A Relationship?

Our sense of who we are is intricately entwined with our spending habit. When it comes to money, the female gender has been perceived and tagged the bigger spender.


While women have been subliminally taught that all they need to get through in life is acceptance which motivates them to always want to look good, which also in turn make them to be buyers and acquisitors of things that make them look good, men have also been taught in the same manner as women to be investors in things that hold value, things that can make them to be seen as men, a house, a car, a juicy retirement and so on…

According to Onyinye Armstrong, a married mother of three, spending is an individual thing. She is of the Opinion that although some men are more extravagant in spending than some women, there is no rule to it; but when it comes to shopping impulsively, women are culprits.


Boladale, a male banker, feels women spend more. He asserted that the only thing is just that most of the money women spend, it is the men that provide it. While women spend on personal effects, pets, fashion items; Men amazingly spend on groceries, dining out, phone calls, entertainment, travel, electronics and gas.

Nevertheless, let us do a more practical assessment. The cost of most of the fashion basics for men cannot be compared to that of women, especially if the man is a freak for genuine fashion items. A woman can pick 20 items in a mall in which the total cost of these 20items might not probably be up to half the cost of two pairs of male shoes another man will incure if he also shops in the same mall.

Although women mostly spend on things that have no asset value which gives them the “now” effect; Men generally spend on way much heavier assets that can be passed from generation to another.

Now, from the above, I will say both sexes spend. But men spend reasonably on valuable assets which make them to be the bigger spender!

Do you have a different opinion? Do share in the comment section.

Are African Men Really Romantic?

African man and love

Time immemorial, the female African race has been on the search to know the real reasons engineering why their men have supposedly been so unromantic compared to their Caucasian counterpart. Sending flowers, public display of affection, saying sorry, lighting evening candles without any occasion and many more are what has characterized men of the non-African race but alas, it can only be noticeable in just a handful of men from the African continent.

It is of utmost importance to note that romance is an essential part of a relationship which helps in producing and strengthening a special bond in one’s relationship. However, it can mean different things to various people but there’s a standard notion of what it should be.

Have you ever wondered why the ‘’unromantic’’ culture has been a trend from one generation to another? Every African boy grow up with ‘’a-do-not-be-seen-as-weak’’ syndrome, hence, the bold face value even when they are passing through the hardest of times. Although Mrs. Nzeribe, a health official in a Lagos state hospital feels men do the ‘’I am the man’’ thingy so as not to be seen as vulnerable to their feeling, especially right in front of their woman, this should never be the case because there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a man showing how much he loves and cares for his woman.

African men, tend not to have the fairytale, affectionate and lovingly loving towards their women because they have seen how their father ran the house, how their father was the lord of the house and how their mother was just there to carry out all orders that come from her ‘’lord’’. The African adage that says ‘’the soup in which the man of the house doesn’t eat, the wife of the house must not prepare’’, has so much to do in the way and manner African men view their interactions with their wives.

Although the African man has been portrayed as violent, thug, controlling, possessive and always coming through as someone without any sexual desires, Mr. Oshikoya, a Computer analyst in Lagos made it known that every African man has huge sexual needs; it only takes a very subtle and unrelenting woman to bring him to his kneels crawling and drooling all in the name of showing his wife all the love and attention in this world.

In conclusion, women seem to view romance as a state of being, while men tend to look at it more as a sequence of specific actions. An African man feels there is nothing as romantic as building a house for his wife and children, being able to provide for their immediate needs and many more while a woman looks at the imaginary, fanciful and many other things portrayed to them in movies as yardstick to being romantic. Needless to say men need to be more open to the exact needs of their wives while wives in turn help their men know what they really want?