Who Spends More In A Relationship?

Our sense of who we are is intricately entwined with our spending habit. When it comes to money, the female gender has been perceived and tagged the bigger spender.

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While women have been subliminally taught that all they need to get through in life is acceptance which motivates them to always want to look good, which also in turn make them to be buyers and acquisitors of things that make them look good, men have also been taught in the same manner as women to be investors in things that hold value, things that can make them to be seen as men, a house, a car, a juicy retirement and so on…

According to Onyinye Armstrong, a married mother of three, spending is an individual thing. She is of the Opinion that although some men are more extravagant in spending than some women, there is no rule to it; but when it comes to shopping impulsively, women are culprits.

 

Boladale, a male banker, feels women spend more. He asserted that the only thing is just that most of the money women spend, it is the men that provide it. While women spend on personal effects, pets, fashion items; Men amazingly spend on groceries, dining out, phone calls, entertainment, travel, electronics and gas.

Nevertheless, let us do a more practical assessment. The cost of most of the fashion basics for men cannot be compared to that of women, especially if the man is a freak for genuine fashion items. A woman can pick 20 items in a mall in which the total cost of these 20items might not probably be up to half the cost of two pairs of male shoes another man will incure if he also shops in the same mall.

Although women mostly spend on things that have no asset value which gives them the “now” effect; Men generally spend on way much heavier assets that can be passed from generation to another.

Now, from the above, I will say both sexes spend. But men spend reasonably on valuable assets which make them to be the bigger spender!

Do you have a different opinion? Do share in the comment section.

Are African Men Really Romantic?

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Time immemorial, the female African race has been on the search to know the real reasons engineering why their men have supposedly been so unromantic compared to their Caucasian counterpart. Sending flowers, public display of affection, saying sorry, lighting evening candles without any occasion and many more are what has characterized men of the non-African race but alas, it can only be noticeable in just a handful of men from the African continent.

It is of utmost importance to note that romance is an essential part of a relationship which helps in producing and strengthening a special bond in one’s relationship. However, it can mean different things to various people but there’s a standard notion of what it should be.

Have you ever wondered why the ‘’unromantic’’ culture has been a trend from one generation to another? Every African boy grow up with ‘’a-do-not-be-seen-as-weak’’ syndrome, hence, the bold face value even when they are passing through the hardest of times. Although Mrs. Nzeribe, a health official in a Lagos state hospital feels men do the ‘’I am the man’’ thingy so as not to be seen as vulnerable to their feeling, especially right in front of their woman, this should never be the case because there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a man showing how much he loves and cares for his woman.

African men, tend not to have the fairytale, affectionate and lovingly loving towards their women because they have seen how their father ran the house, how their father was the lord of the house and how their mother was just there to carry out all orders that come from her ‘’lord’’. The African adage that says ‘’the soup in which the man of the house doesn’t eat, the wife of the house must not prepare’’, has so much to do in the way and manner African men view their interactions with their wives.

Although the African man has been portrayed as violent, thug, controlling, possessive and always coming through as someone without any sexual desires, Mr. Oshikoya, a Computer analyst in Lagos made it known that every African man has huge sexual needs; it only takes a very subtle and unrelenting woman to bring him to his kneels crawling and drooling all in the name of showing his wife all the love and attention in this world.

In conclusion, women seem to view romance as a state of being, while men tend to look at it more as a sequence of specific actions. An African man feels there is nothing as romantic as building a house for his wife and children, being able to provide for their immediate needs and many more while a woman looks at the imaginary, fanciful and many other things portrayed to them in movies as yardstick to being romantic. Needless to say men need to be more open to the exact needs of their wives while wives in turn help their men know what they really want?